• Four Things Etiquette Is NOT

    by Emily Post

    Misconceptions about etiquette and the need for it abound, which make it necessary to list four things that etiquette is most certainly not:

    A set of rigid rules. Manners change with the times (something Emily Post emphasized from the beginning) and today are more flexible than ever before. Etiquette isn’t a set of “prescriptions for properness” but merely a set of guidelines for doing things in ways that make people feel comfortable.

    Something for the wealthy or well-born. Etiquette is a code of behavior for people from all walks of like, every socioeconomic group, and of all ages. No one is immune to having his life enhanced by good manners.

    A think of the past. Sometimes it seems that yesterday’s standards have gone out the window, but today’s more casual approach to things is something that sits on the surface. The bedrock principles of etiquette remain as solid as they ever were.

    Snobbishness. Little violates the tenets of etiquette more than snobbery---which, more often than not, is just another name for pretentiousness. A person who looks down on others shows himself not as superior but small---the kind who’s anything but respectful and considerate.

Dance

Dress Code

Just as they’ll have to do more and more as they grow older, we encourage our students to “dress for the occasion” at Carolina Junior Cotillion events. The images shown here and the guidelines below provide a handy reference for participants.

Please Note: This season it is optional for staff and students are required to wear a face covering over their nose and mouth at Cotillion. 

  • Ladies

    Nice Casual - Dress or Skirt (5th grade white gloves)

    Balls/Semi-Formal - Dressy Dress (please, no strapless) (5th grade white gloves)

    DJ Night/Casual - Jeans/Pants, Nice Blouse/Knit Top, Casual Shoes/Tennis Shoes (no gloves)

    Please: No excessively short dresses, strapless dresses, and/or flip flops.

  • Gentlemen

    Nice Casual - Tie, Socks, Dress Shoes

    Balls/Semi-Formal - Jacket, Tie, Dress Slacks, Dress Shoes

    DJ Night/Casual - Jeans/Pants, Collared/Knit Shirt, Casual Shoes/Tennis Shoes

  • Four Things Etiquette Is NOT

    by Emily Post

    Misconceptions about etiquette and the need for it abound, which make it necessary to list four things that etiquette is most certainly not:

    A set of rigid rules. Manners change with the times (something Emily Post emphasized from the beginning) and today are more flexible than ever before. Etiquette isn’t a set of “prescriptions for properness” but merely a set of guidelines for doing things in ways that make people feel comfortable.

    Something for the wealthy or well-born. Etiquette is a code of behavior for people from all walks of like, every socioeconomic group, and of all ages. No one is immune to having his life enhanced by good manners.

    A think of the past. Sometimes it seems that yesterday’s standards have gone out the window, but today’s more casual approach to things is something that sits on the surface. The bedrock principles of etiquette remain as solid as they ever were.

    Snobbishness. Little violates the tenets of etiquette more than snobbery---which, more often than not, is just another name for pretentiousness. A person who looks down on others shows himself not as superior but small---the kind who’s anything but respectful and considerate.